Just Because You Can Is The Very Reason You Shouldn’t

“He always takes it out on me.” “She always takes it out on me.” “I always take it out on her.” “I always take it out on him.” As someone who has worked with married couples for years, I have heard those phrases many, many times. So often, married...

Why Jimmy Fallon Should be a Marriage and Family Therapist

When it comes to buying my wife presents, she will tell you, it’s not an easy task—mainly because she doesn’t like to spend money…on herself. Oh, she will spend it on the kids, me, our extended family, people going on mission trips. She even tips...

Anchored In

When I was 18, I learned to scuba dive with my brother, uncle and two cousins. It was a surprisingly quick process, perhaps too quick. After a weekend of instruction in a pool and one dive in a quarry, our instructor, Arnie, said we were...

To Have And To Hold

When babies and toddlers, and even younger kids are unsure, tired, scared, hurt, upset, even scared, they will say to those they trust, “Hold me,” or as my daughter use to say to me, “Hold you.”   When a little one says, “Hold me,” they don’t care...

How Not To Be A Mean Person

Because marriage is what I do, I can’t help but notice how married couples interact . . . especially in public. Once while standing in line at Disney World, I observed a married couple with two kids. After the hour wait to ride Space Mountain, I...